Introduction
Q1: Can I get a recovery order if I don't know where my ex and our child are?
A: Yes. You can apply even if no parenting orders exist yet, and if you can't find the other parent to serve the documents, the court can hear the application without them. In one case, the court made a recovery order, an order requiring Centrelink to disclose the child's address, and an airport watch list order — all in a single day. Reference: Tesluk & Gordon [2009] FamCA 952
Q2: My ex moved our kids interstate without asking me. Will the court send them back?
A: Usually, but not always. The court will normally have the children return while everyone waits for a final hearing. What actually decides the question, though, is the children's best interests — not punishing the parent who moved. In one case, a father's application failed because the move barely touched his school holiday time. Reference: Geddes & Toomey [2014] FCCA 1814
Q3: Will the court hear my recovery application straight away?
A: Usually only if the case is genuinely urgent — say, the child is at risk of harm. Without evidence of risk, your application joins the ordinary queue. One mother, whose son had been moved 680 km away, waited about 13 weeks for her first court date because the child was safe and attending school. Reference: Quong & Rush [2017] FCCA 1765
What exactly is a recovery order?
A recovery order is a court order compelling someone to hand a child back, and it can authorise police to go and find the child. When a parent takes or keeps a child without agreement, it is the sharpest tool the family courts have. The power sits in section 67Q of the Family Law Act 1975.
A recovery order can do any or all of the following:
- Require the child's return — to a parent, to a person the child lives with or spends time with under a parenting order, or to a person who holds parental responsibility for the child (section 67Q(a)).
- Authorise a search. Police or other named officers may stop and search a vehicle, vessel or aircraft, and enter premises to look for the child, using force if they must (section 67Q(b)).
- Authorise recovery and delivery of the child into the right person's hands (section 67Q(c) and (d)).
- Stop a repeat. The order can forbid the person from taking the child again, and authorise arrest without warrant if they try (section 67Q(f) and (g)).
A few further rules shape how recovery orders actually work:
- Who can apply. Under section 67T, a parent named in a parenting order, a grandparent, or anyone else concerned with the child's care, welfare or development may apply — and you don't need an existing parenting order first. In Tesluk & Gordon [2009] FamCA 952, the mother applied simply as a person concerned with the child's care.
- What the court weighs. Under section 67V, the child's best interests come first. The court applies the same best interests factors from section 60CC that it uses for any parenting order.
- How long it lasts. Under section 67W, a recovery order runs for the period stated in the order or 12 months, whichever ends sooner.
- Obstruction has consequences. Under section 67X, someone who deliberately hinders police or officers enforcing a recovery order can be fined, required to enter a recognisance (a formal promise to the court, sometimes backed by money), or jailed for up to 3 months until they give that undertaking.
Because a recovery order can end with police removing a child from a home, judges handle it with real caution. In Drew & Jensen [2017] FCCA 656, Judge Altobelli put it this way. (An ex parte order is one made without the other parent present.)
"A recovery order is a form of mandatory injunction, indeed a very drastic form, as the statutory scheme suggests. There is no reason in principle why the law about injunctions, especially ex parte injunctions, should not apply to recovery orders."
Key Point: A recovery order is not a punishment for the other parent. It is a drastic order, and the court will only make it where returning the child serves the child's best interests.
Why a recovery order isn't automatic
Plenty of parents assume that once the other side breaks the rules, the court must send the child back. The law doesn't work that way. The court looks forward — at what is best for the child from here on — not backward at who was wrong. Misread that, and three things can bite you:
- You can lose even though the other parent breached orders. The court weighs the disruption of another move, the child's schooling, and whether your time with the child has genuinely suffered.
- A one-sided story can backfire. Urgent orders obtained without the full picture can be discharged, and your credibility takes a hit for the rest of the case.
- You may wait longer than you expect. Cases involving risk of harm jump the queue. A recovery application with no evidence of risk sits in the ordinary list.
The mother left the family home with the couple's two young children — a preschooler and a toddler. The father went straight to a Local Court and walked out with a recovery order, telling the court the mother had absconded with the children. She wasn't there to answer. Police then took the children from the mother and delivered them to the father.
The mother applied to the Federal Circuit Court to have the order set aside, saying she had fled the father's violence. Police records later produced on subpoena showed the father had convictions for assaulting a former partner — the mother of his older daughter — none of which he had mentioned to the Local Court. And once the children were back with him, the parenting arrangements he proposed bore no relation to the dangers he had claimed.
Outcome: The recovery order was set aside. Under new interim orders, the children returned to their mother's care and saw their father every second weekend. Judge Altobelli held that a recovery order made without the other parent present should be a last resort, reserved for cases where the court is squarely concerned about a risk of harm to the children.
"Recovery orders are not warranted because children are taken away from their new puppy. A recovery order is not necessarily warranted because children have been taken away from the home with which they are most familiar, and one parent."
Key Point: If you apply for a recovery order — especially an urgent one, without the other parent there — you must put every relevant fact before the court, including the ones that hurt. Concealing them can cost you the order, and colour how the court sees you as a parent.
Will the court order the children back after an interstate move?
The most common trigger for a recovery application is a unilateral interstate move: one parent relocates the children without the other's consent. What the court does with it depends heavily on the facts.
Common Misconception: If the other parent moved the children without permission, the court will always order them back.
Legal Truth: Usually the court does require the children's return until a final hearing — a parent shouldn't profit from a move the court never examined. But where returning the children would do more harm than good, the court can refuse.
"In most cases the parent who moved the children unilaterally is required to return the children pending a final hearing but each case must be considered on its own facts and the decision must be reached in accordance with the children's best interests as the primary consideration, not punishment of a parent."
The parents shared equal parental responsibility for three children — a 10-year-old and twins approaching 9. Under the existing orders, the children lived with the mother in Darwin and spent school holidays with the father. Without telling the father, the mother moved the children to Queensland and enrolled them in new schools there. The father applied urgently for their immediate return.
The mother admitted breaching the orders. Her explanation: the relationship had ended, she had no job and nowhere to live in Darwin, no child support was coming in, and her extended family was in Queensland. The father said he also saw the children informally about once a month — the mother disputed that. And his affidavit never said what should happen to the children if the mother refused to come back with them.
Outcome: The application was dismissed. The move hadn't touched the father's school holiday time under the orders, and the children were settled in their new schools. The judge criticised the mother for not consulting the father, but reasoned that ordering the children back might mean a second upheaval within months, if the mother later won the right to relocate.
About two weeks later, the same judge came to the opposite conclusion on similar facts — because safety was in issue there.
| Comparison | Geddes & Toomey [2014] | Crouper & Mitchell [2014] |
|---|---|---|
| The move | Mother moved three children from Darwin to Queensland | Mother moved a young child from Darwin to Queensland |
| Main issue | No allegations of family violence or abuse | Safety was the overwhelming issue, with competing allegations of violence, neglect and alcohol abuse |
| Effect on the other parent's time | School holiday time unaffected | Not the focus of the decision |
| Outcome | Recovery order refused | Recovery order made. Mother's appeal dismissed |
Key Point: Neither case turned on breach alone. Once safety concerns were on the table, the court brought the child back and ordered a family report. Where there were no safety concerns and little practical impact, the children stayed where they had settled.
If your ex has already relocated the children:
- Move quickly. Every week the children stay, they settle further — and your argument for return weakens.
- Spell out in your affidavit what you want to happen if the other parent won't move back with the children.
- Show the concrete impact on your relationship with the children — the lost regular weekends, the school pick-ups that no longer happen.
- If you have safety concerns, put them before the court with evidence.
What if your ex doesn't return the children after a visit?
The second common scenario: the visit ends, and the other parent simply doesn't bring the children back — saying the children want to stay.
Common Misconception: If the children say they want to stay, the other parent can keep them until the final hearing.
Legal Truth: Children's views matter, but the court asks where those views came from. A parent who keeps children in breach of orders, then leans on their wishes, may find those wishes count for little.
The parents had seven children. In April 2016 they agreed to interim orders: the children would live with the mother in Perth and visit the father, who lived about a two-hour drive away. For the January 2017 school holidays, the mother agreed that three of the children could spend three weeks with him. When the three weeks were up, the father returned one child and kept the other two, saying they didn't want to go back — and enrolled them in the local school and sporting clubs.
The mother applied for a recovery order immediately, but the matter didn't reach a hearing for about six weeks. The magistrate then refused the order, unsure how strongly the children felt and noting that they had started at a new school. Two earlier family reports went unconsidered, as did the effect of splitting up the siblings.
Outcome: On appeal, Thackray J found the magistrate had fallen into error — one of them being the failure to ask what the other children would make of watching their father defy a court order with no consequences. The father was ordered to return the children in his care to the mother, failing which a recovery order would issue. The eldest boy, born in 2002, was allowed to choose where he lived.
"Although it is not a matter I take into account, an order requiring V to be returned, even with a trial looming, may send a message to the legal profession and their clients that the court is willing to enforce its orders, and that parents should not take matters into their own hands where there is no evidence of risk."
The Full Court took much the same approach to children's wishes in Bondelmonte [2016] FamCAFC 48. A father took his sons — almost 17 and 15 — on holiday to New York, then announced they would be staying. The boys did want to remain with him. The court still ordered their return to Australia: their wishes had formed within a situation the father himself had created, and carried less weight for it. The majority put it plainly — with children's views, "context is critical". The father's further appeal to the High Court failed too.
Where the excuse for keeping a child is thin, courts move fast. In Rose & Barwon [2009] FamCA 958, the children lived with their father under a 2005 parenting order. The mother kept them after a visit because the 5-year-old had a bump on his forehead. The court found no risk to the children with their father, and ordered the mother to hand them back by 8 pm that same day.
What helps in this situation:
- File the moment the children aren't returned. Every day of delay hands the other parent a "they're settled now" argument.
- If the registrar gives you a late hearing date, ask a judge to review that listing decision. In Renald (No. 2), the mother could have — and didn't.
- Attach any existing family reports. They help the court tell whether the children's stated wishes are genuine.
What if your ex disappears with your child?
The hardest case of all: the other parent vanishes with the child, and there is no one to serve.
Common Misconception: No address, no service, nothing the court can do.
Legal Truth: The court can hear your application without the other parent present. It can also order government agencies and other people to reveal where the child is.
After the parents separated, the father vanished with their 20-month-old son, who until then had been in the mother's primary care. No parenting orders existed, and she couldn't find the father to serve him with anything.
She applied for a recovery order together with a Commonwealth information order directed to Centrelink. The law normally gives a government agency 7 days to respond to such an application, but the court let her serve Centrelink by fax that same morning, and heard the matter at 2 pm that day.
Outcome: Austin J found special circumstances and made a recovery order for the child's return to the mother, along with a Commonwealth information order, an interim order that the child live with her, and an order restraining removal of the child from Australia, with a request that the Australian Federal Police place the child on the Airport Watch List.
A parent who hides a child can be punished severely — and so can whoever helps.
"If the Court is unable to enforce its orders through the mechanisms set out in the Family Law Act, then there is anarchy."
In Senna & Aldenberg & Anor [2018] FCCA 2711, orders for equal shared parental responsibility and equal time were in place, but the mother hid her two children for three years. The children were moved from place to place, sometimes at night, under blankets. They were eventually found at a property owned by their grandmother, who had ignored a location order requiring her to tell the court where they were. The mother was sentenced to 18 months imprisonment for contempt. The grandmother, 74, received 6 months, suspended after she had served 3.
When you can't find your child:
- Apply for a recovery order and a location order together. Under section 67N, the court can order Centrelink or another Commonwealth agency to hand over address information.
- Ask for the child to go on the Airport Watch List if there is any chance they could be taken overseas.
- Set out in your affidavit every step you have taken to find the child and serve the other parent.
How does the court process work?
Most recovery applications travel the same road: you file, the court assesses urgency, and a judge deals with the matter on an interim basis. The cases above show how each stage can go right — or wrong.
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Work out whether it's urgent. Before filing a parenting application, you normally need a family dispute resolution certificate. Section 60I(9) of the Family Law Act lists exceptions — among them, reasonable grounds to believe the child has suffered, or faces a risk of, abuse or family violence. Urgency itself is another exception (section 60I(9)(d)).
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File the application with a detailed affidavit. The affidavit should set out what happened, the orders you want, and what should become of the child if the other parent won't return with them. It must also contain the facts that don't help you. In Drew & Jensen, the father's concealed history of violence cost him the order.
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The registry lists the case. With no evidence of risk, a recovery application queues like any other parenting matter. In Quong & Rush, the first court date sat about 13 weeks out. A registrar's listing decision can be reviewed by a judge, but you have to show real urgency.
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The interim hearing. The judge must actually decide your recovery application. Appointing an Independent Children's Lawyer (ICL) or ordering a family report is fine — but the court can't use those steps as a reason to leave the urgent question hanging.
"The orders for counselling and appointing an ICL were entirely proper. However, the trial judge was nevertheless obliged to engage with the application made on behalf of the father in this case, being that before those things could be put in place, the child should be returned to the father."
In Ghorbani & Saeed [2013] FamCAFC 167, the father had been the child's main carer until the mother took the child to an address he didn't know. The trial judge appointed an Independent Children's Lawyer and adjourned the case for mention — without deciding the recovery application. The Full Court upheld the father's appeal and ordered an urgent hearing.
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Police carry out the order. A recovery order is usually directed to police and stays in force for up to 12 months. Under section 67Y, once the child is returned, you must notify the court registry.
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Appeals are hard. Recovery orders are mostly interim decisions, and appeal courts rarely disturb them. In Crouper & Mitchell [2014] FamCAFC 246, the Full Court dismissed the mother's appeal because the next interim hearing was only a couple of months away — an appeal would have achieved nothing.
If a recovery order has been made against you, you can apply to have it discharged. In Drew & Jensen, the mother applied six days after police removed the children; the court discharged the order and the children went back to living with her.
A note on the law today: most of the cases in this article were decided before 6 May 2024, when reforms rewrote the best interests factors in section 60CC and did away with the presumption of equal shared parental responsibility. The recovery order principles from these cases still guide the courts. The Federal Circuit Court and the Family Court of Australia, meanwhile, merged into the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia on 1 September 2021.
Worried a child might be taken overseas? See Taking a Child Overseas? Court Factors & Airport Watchlist. For what happens when a parent ignores parenting orders, see Legal Consequences of Contravening Parenting Orders in Australia and How to File a Contravention Application in Australia. For how judges weigh children's wishes, see How Much Weight Do Courts Give a Child's Views in Australia?.
What should you do if your child has been taken or withheld?
A breach doesn't guarantee a return order. In Geddes & Toomey, the mother admitted moving the children interstate in breach of orders — and the father's application still failed, because his time with them was barely affected.
Full disclosure is non-negotiable. Drew & Jensen shows what hiding relevant facts, especially a history of violence, can buy you: a discharged recovery order, and the children placed with the other parent.
Children's wishes don't justify keeping them. In Renald (No. 2), the father leaned on the children's wish to stay after a holiday. The court found he could have encouraged them back, and ordered him to do exactly that.
You can act even without an address. Tesluk & Gordon shows the court making a recovery order, a Commonwealth information order and an Airport Watch List order in a single day, with the other parent absent.
Speed matters — and so does evidence of risk. Courts list recovery applications urgently when a child faces harm. Without that evidence, expect the ordinary queue.
Do:
- Apply the moment the child is taken or not returned
- Put every relevant fact before the court, including the ones that hurt
- Say what should happen if the other parent won't return with the child
- Ask for a location order and Airport Watch List order if you can't find the child
- Seek a review if the registry gives you a late date in an urgent case
Don't:
- Take the child back yourself without a court order
- Assume the court orders a return to punish the other parent
- Dress up the risk to get an urgent hearing
- Rely on nothing but the children saying they want to stay
- Help someone hide a child in breach of court orders


